The Mother-Daughter Programs (registration closed for 2021 - please join us next year)

The Mother-Daughter Programs (registration closed for 2021 - please join us next year)
November 13, 2021
9:00am - 5:00pm
Virtual
Cost: $15 - $20

Tween (10-12) program     9:00 am -  12:30 pm


Teen (13-16) program  1:30 pm- 5:00 pm


The Mother-Daughter Programs are designed to help you and your daughter explore God’s special gift of human fertility together. Help her see the beauty and wonder of God’s plan for growing up as a young girl or teenager and becoming a woman. 


There are 2  separate programs -- for ‘tweens’  in the morning, and ‘teens’  in the afternoon. The Tween and Teen Programs cover similar subject matter while differing in depth and scope. All presentations are pure and affirming!


The 2 Programs cover similar subject matter while differing in depth and scope. All presentations are pure, light-hearted and affirming! 


(Note - ages are suggested - but each parent knows her child best, and which level would be most appropriate - outlines of the 2 programs are below )

 * Girls younger than 10 who are already developing and showing signs of puberty are also welcome to attend.


For more information - contact Ed Hopfner, HopfnerE@SFArch.org



 

Tween Program


(for Mothers and their 10 – 12 year old daughters)


This program is very basic and is geared toward the younger girls’ anticipation of the changes that take place at puberty. Most girls will not have started ovulating or having periods, eventhough many of them are experiencing some of the physical and emotional changes.


This is a sweet program to help the girls appreciate their femininity, have some fun, laugh a lot and become comfortable with their changing bodies and personalities. Little girls change into women, even if they would rather not, and all the changes are part of God’s wonderful design of women. The physical changes are preparing the girls’ bodies to be able to be mothers in the future. God wants every new baby to grow inside his mother’s uterus, and He has designed everything about a woman’s body to take care of His babies. The program really helps put the girls and their mothers at ease when discussing these topics!


Welcome


An introduction of the topics that will be discussed. Stage is set for talking about God’s love and wisdom in His Plan for each young person to grow up. The emcee emphasizes the goodness of being a girl and the fact that changes are supposed to happen. The children will be put at ease and prepared for the presentations to follow.


Opening Prayer


Spontaneous and from the heart.


When I Was Your Age – 4 to 5 minutes


Encouragement will be given to the girls to listen to the speakers and to learn more about themselves. They are reassured that growing up is good and wonderful even though it may seem confusing at times. They are reminded that there is always so much to learn, and that’s why they are at the Mother / Daughter program.


It’s Great to be a Girl – 8 to 10 minutes


Girls learn they are unique and precious. The goodness of the girls’ femininity and womanhood is emphasized. They learn that it’s good to be a woman and that God has given them special gifts, especially the possibility of being able one day to become a mother. Their bodies will change to help prepare them for the future, and the more they can understand what is happening, the more prepared they will be.


Every young girl is unique and precious, and they should learn to cherish their uniqueness. They need to respect themselves and ask for respect from others. They learn about a personal value system.


Speaker covers developing gifts and talents and the importance of using them to serve God and live a virtuous life. All the virtues will be discussed with some special emphasis on modesty and modest dress.


Girls hear about responsibility to themselves and to others in their families, schools and peer groups. Everyone is responsible for her actions and words, even when moods make them feel a certain way.


All in God’s Plan – 10 to 15 minutes


Emphasis is on anticipating the physical and emotional changes that happen and that all the changes are good and necessary parts of God’s plan to help girls bodies prepare for motherhood.


Each person is different, and each person changes and develops at different times and in different ways, and that’s the way it’s supposed to be.


Puberty is a time of change. Their little girl bodies will develop over time into adult women’s bodies. They will begin to produce hormones which are like chemical messengers that prepare their bodies for ovulation and their first menstrual periods.


Physical changes like growth spurts, weight gain, growth of reproductive organs, body odor, acne, etc. will be discussed. All these things are happening because their bodies are responding to the hormonal messages from their brains and reproductive organs. Their bodies are learning how to function as a woman and preparing for motherhood in the future.


Emotional changes like moodiness, argumentativeness, peer acceptance, etc. will also be covered. They especially need lots of love and affection from their parents and acceptance by their peers. They will start to desire independence. It can be a confusing time.


Our Bodies Prepare for Motherhood – 30 to 45 minutes


Explanation of the Fertility Cycle, Ovulation and Menstruation


The visual presentation includes a woman’s cycle, brain interaction with reproductive organs, cycle variations, reproductive anatomy and physiology, conception, uterus, birth canal, phases of the cycle, fertility wheel, hormones, the ovary, changes in the endometrium, menstruation, pregnant uterus and the unborn baby.


Girls and their mothers will understand that God has designed their bodies in an awesome way.


The gift of human fertility should never be taken for granted. The emphasis is on God’s design and understanding His plan for their bodies, helping them to see that all the changes are to help prepare them for love, marriage and a family in the future.


Being a Mother – 3 to 6 minutes


Personal Witness


A completely honest and direct from the heart witness to the joys as well as the sorrows of motherhood. Since it is never easy being a parent, and there is no such thing as the perfect parent, the speaker encourages the mothers to keep trying to do their best.


Mothers are also encouraged to love their daughters no matter what, to really listen to them, to be there for them and to make them know how important they are to their families.


Girls will be told that being a mother is a great blessing from God and, if marriage is their vocation, hopefully God will bless them with children. Their children will probably treat them the same way they treat their mothers, so it is important that they remember to be kind and gentle to their mothers. Lots of love, respect and communication can go a long way in helping to keep the family happy.


Afternoon Break – 30 minutes


Questions and Answers for the Panel – 30 to 45 minutes


Opportunity to answer questions from the Question Box (via chat)


A panel of women will answer questions placed in the box during the break. If any inappropriate questions are asked they are not covered during the presentation.


Poetic Tribute to Daughters – 3 to 4 minutes


Poem is read together


Mothers are asked to put their arms around their daughters while a poem is read. This is the end of the program.


 

Teen Program


(for Mothers and their 13–16year old daughters) 


Welcome 


Stage is set for talking about God’s love and wisdom in His plan for each young person to grow up. The emcee will emphasize the goodness of being a girl and the fact that changes are supposed to happen. The girls will be put at ease and prepared for the presentations to follow. 


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Opening Prayer 


Spontaneous and from the heart. 


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Becoming a Woman in the Kingdom of God: 10 minutes 


This talk replaced “All in God’s Plan” from the Tween program. This is meant to be an encouraging message for young ladies in being strong, confident and bold in their faith as they grow up. The speaker should be a young woman beyond High School age, preferably college or after college-age, in her 20’s. She should be able to share the beauty of becoming a woman, and even possibly how she made it through the struggle of finding her place as a woman of God in this world. 


There is great power and gift in being a woman in the fight against evil, even amidst the confusion handed us by a culture that tries to tell us what it means to be a woman, which is often in direct contradiction to what God wants of us. Our relationships are changing at this age, with our friends, our mom, and the rest of our family. It is important to find friendships that will last, with people who share their values, and to never forget those relationships that will always be there (family!) 


Encourage the teens to look to the great diversity of the Communion of Saints. God has called women of all ages, backgrounds and vocations to accomplish His work and we are invited and privileged to look to the Virgin Mary as the ideal image of being a woman. Draw closer to God through prayer and the sacraments of Eucharist and Reconciliation! God has plans for each one of us and he will use us as instruments to bring about His glory 


All in God’s Plan–10 to 15 minutes 


Physical and Emotional Changes 


Most of the girls have started ovulating and having their periods so positive enthusiasm about femininity and womanhood are stressed as well as the importance of respect and setting high standards for themselves. The girls deserve to be cherished because each one is a precious creation of God, made in His image, with unique gifts and talents. 


The physical changes are discussed, but more in summary form. More emphasis is placed on their emotional changes, their need for love, assurance and acceptance by their parents and especially their peers, mood swings, the development of a stronger personality, and their desire for independence. 


Many girls in this age group are so worried about how they look and if they measure up to the usually unrealistic standards set by their peers and especially by the teen magazines that they fail to recognize their own beauty and goodness. They are encouraged to see who God sees, to be the best person possible and to trust God to lead the way. 


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Authentic Beauty: Dressing for the Real You - 20 minutes 


Here we offer a solid message of modesty as a way of thinking vs a set of rules, keeping in mind that these girls are still teenagers living at home, and their parents may have rules that they need to respect and follow. 


This is a great opportunity because we have both teen girls AND their mothers in attendance, so both can learn something about each other's perspective. The girls always like getting some practical and current tips on how to look cute and trendy while not showing too much. (Think layers and accessories.)


Preparation for Motherhood - Slide Presentation–30 to 40 minutes 


Understanding the Cycle, Fertility Appreciation, Effects of Hormones 


Preparation for motherhood and the importance of the gift of human fertility and the gift of each new baby is stressed. The tremendous power of human fertility deserves reverence and protection because of its sacredness uniting us with God in His creation of a new person. 


The slides help the girls and their mothers understand that God has designed their bodies in an awesome way. The gift of human fertility should never be taken for granted, and when they learn about fertility, they can understand and appreciate it. God’s design is discussed to help the young people understand His plan for their bodies and help them to see that growing up is to help prepare them for love, marriage, and a family in the future. 


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Theology of the Body 


A 30-minute presentation introducing Saint John Paul II and his Theology of the Body. This will focus on the basics, introducing the girls to the concept of "Free, Total, Faithful, Fruitful" and how a teenage girl can apply it to her life and choices.


Our bodies speak a language, and the choices we make with our bodies speak a language. It is important to know that we can speak truth or lies with how we use our bodies. The TRUTH is that we are meant in our relationships to mirror God’s love. It’s what we were made for, to eventually be with God forever in Heaven, enjoying his eternal glory. 


We are given four aspects of God’s love to remember and model: God’s love is Free! Jesus gave himself freely to us, asking nothing in return. We speak truth to this free love by being generous friends without expectation of anything in return. God’s love is Total! He gives all of himself, to death on the cross, holding nothing back. God’s love is Faithful! He never abandons us or stops loving us. And God’s love is Fruitful! God’s love brings us live. Scripture says in Christ we are a new creation! Our bodies are GOOD and beautiful and designed by God. 


This talk comes after a break and before a 10 minute "Challenge to Chastity" so it is really meant to lay the groundwork for WHY these girls should choose to live chastely.   


Being a Spiritual Mother 


Here we talk to the girls about what spiritual motherhood means for one{s life. Typically the girls hear how the sisters heard their call to vocation, what they were like as a girl and how they feel like a mother to others even though they have not been a mother by birth. 


 

Challenge to Chastity 6 to 10 minutes 


Personal Witness 


Here we present chastity as a desired and valuable virtue.  The challenge to chastity includes a challenge to the girls to discover who they are as precious creations of God so they can know real freedom, real love and real intimacy. 


Chastity can protect them from the many harmful effects of using their sexual powers outside of God’s plan. Chastity can give them the freedom to really love other people and to form deep bonding relationships based on respect instead of passion. Chastity is possible only with God’s help, and He expects it of every person He has created. 


The girls are encouraged to plan for their future now and decide that sexual activity belongs only in marriage. They can plan to be a virgin and to save the precious gift of themselves for their husband and to really celebrate their wedding day. They can begin praying for their future husband, for purity and sexual self-control for him as well as for themselves. 


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Questions and Answers for the Panel from the Question Box –30 to 45 minutes 


A panel of speakers and a physician will answer questions placed in the box during the tea party. If any inappropriate questions are asked they are not covered during the presentation. 


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The Choice is Yours6 to 10 minutes 


Here we encourage the girls to make good decisions and help them understand that they are responsible for the choices they make. Once they make a choice, they have to be ready to accept the consequences that come with that choice. 


The girls are reminded that they are capable of making good decisions. Section includes hints on dating and the importance of being a good friend and to having lots of friends of both sexes who share their values. 


Girls are reminded about the dangers of alcohol and drugs and how these things can weaken their resolve to be chaste. 


This section ends on a positive note of hope and encouragement. 


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Being a Mother3 to 6 minutes (if time) 


This section is a short personal witness to the joys as well as the sorrows of motherhood. It is completely honest and directly from the heart of the speaker. 


Mothers are encouraged to love their daughters no matter what, to really listen to them, to be there for them and to let them know how important they are to their families. The girls need to know that being a mother is a great blessing from God, and hopefully, if marriage is their vocation, God will bless them with children. 


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Evaluations and Closing 

The Mother-Daughter Programs (registration closed for 2021 - please join us next year)
November 13, 2021
9:00am - 5:00pm
Virtual